How to Socially Distance When Your Home Feels Unsafe

Our Clinical Director, Liz Eiten, LMSW, CCTP was quote in Apartment Therapy about surviving toxic parents during quarantine.

What if my parents are toxic?  

With college students across the country being required to leave campus housing earlier than expected, many young adults are suddenly back in close quarters with toxic parents. “For some, this can be an opportunity to start understanding their own needs, preferences, and boundaries,” says Elizabeth Eiten, a licensed master social worker and holistic psychotherapist. “Therapy can be an excellent opportunity for young adults to practice authenticity, assertiveness skills, and develop self-worth and confidence.” 

For anyone who doesn’t feel like themselves due to toxic relationships, Eiten suggests creating a list of values, personal needs, and relationship needs. This list can be a roadmap for beginning to navigate conflict and difficulties at home. 

“When someone is in a toxic situation, finding ways to tap into authenticity, confidence, and compassion can help that individual feel empowered,” Eiten says. “If you’re struggling to identify your needs, values, and boundaries, a licensed therapist can help you tap into your internal wisdom—even if you don’t think it’s there.” 

She also recommends forums and support groups online, including Out of the Fog (for loved ones of people who suffer with personality disorders) and Al-Anon (for loved ones of alcoholics).